Trouble signs for couples

All’s fair in love and war.  What does that saying really mean?Are they presuming that the two are very similar?  I am not sure if that is what they are saying but there are similarities between the two.

The things that are the same I guess are when the two turns from love into war.There could still be love for the two of them, but they are usually in a battle like it is a war.  I have seen this first hand doing couples therapy San Diego.A couple that once used to be loving now are constantly in battle.  It is my goal to bring peace to the two.And reclaim that long lost loving relationship.

So what are the signs of trouble?  One of the biggest warning signs is communication.Or should it be said lack of any communication.For all relationships, being able to communicate is critical.Since it is crucial, if you as a couple are able to know that there is less communication, that is a sign.  It is a warning sign of trouble.  Whether I am doing couples counseling or  marriage counseling in San Diego I see it all the time.  After all if you can’t communicate, every little thing can become a big problem.Being able to communicate effectively helps to prevent that.

So as a family counselor San Diego one of the biggest things I do is try to teach the couple how to communicate.One of the biggest secrets to effective communicating is being able to listen.A lot of people when they think of being able to communicate they think it refers to talking.But truthfully if you are unable to listen very well, you won’t really be able to understand each other.So by teaching the couple how to listen more effectively, the communication between them will improve greatly.

By recognizing this sign couples can know trouble may be brewing.  If a couple is able to recognize this in their relationship early they can avoid problems. From what I have witnessed, the optimum way to solve some problems is to completely avoid them.  But if not recognized early, best way to solve them is to learn how to communicate.Sounds basic but what it can do is have a major role in the problem.